and there you have it...my belly @ 28 weeks! this pregnancy continues to fly by super-duper fast, and smoothly!! i honestly feel weird saying it, but besides the growing belly and sweet little kicks....i pretty much don't feel pregnant. i am however, assured that there will be some hiccup along the way at some point. It can't be this smooth/easy. I did fail my 26 week glucose test a few weeks ago, so i had to go in for the long & dreaded test that i am all too familiar with from last pregnancy...but thankfully i passed. I was pretty pesimistic about it since i had failed with preston and @ week 26, but so so happy to have passed this time around. finger pricking=yuck!
So, now i need some advice. i am pretty dang nervous to bring a brand new little babe home to a wild little 18 month old....I know he will probably not care or even know what is going on, but is there any suggestions out there on how to make the transition easier for preston, or how i can try to prepare him in even the slightest bit now before her arrival? I am well aware that it will be a lot of trial and error, and jealousy in our household for a while, but if there is anything any of you have experienced that may help me out to ease this transistion, do share please!!
2nd question: do i move preston from his crib into a big-boy bed pre-baby or post-baby? I don't want to keep baby girl in a bassinet next to my bed for very long (preston lasted about 2 weeks), but i don't want it to be traumatic for preston either to be giving his bed up? so do i buy another crib or go for the toddler bed?
oh yeah, happy halloween. i'm sure my halloween post will follow later this week, or next at the rate i have with updating my blog.
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I had the same questions as you, I was super nervous about how Brady would feel, and how i could be a good mom to TWO kids. Some of the best advice I was given is that if both kids are crying at the same time, help the older one first, because the older they are, the more they could remember. Brady adjusted so fast, and i know Preston will too. I just always involved Brady with what I was doing with Brighton. and I bought another crib, on craigslist, super cheap...totally worth it! You loook so great for being 28 weeks, not fair!!
love, Rebekah
Ours were a little more spread out 22 months but one thing we did was we had a fun present all wrapped up at the hospital for Taylor (our oldest) and we told her it was from Bridger (new baby brother) She loved that. We had also let her bring a gift that she picked out at the store for him.
I don't remember too much jealousy.
Taylor was already in a big bed at 10 months so we didn't have to deal with that, but I say go with your instinct. Whatever is the easiest on everybody!
You will do great I am sure. Your little guy is adorable. I love to take peaks at your blog.
Well this isn't my own advice but I heard it from somewhere can't remember :) they said to involve them from the very beginning taking them to doctors visits, ultrasounds so they can see the little guy. Mention many many times "baby sister/brother" I like to say baby brother loves you if he kisses my belly or hugs me. If were reading I'll say baby brother loves that book, just like you!
As for the bed, at 16/17 months we tried to put james into a toddler bed and let's just say he slept with us all three nights before we put it back into a crib. I think you just have to go off your gut I didnt know if he was ready son we tried and he wasn't and I know that he isn't ready anytime soon, hopefully there will be a sign that smacks me in the face " James is ready for a toddler bed" Hahaha
oh meag!!
you will be so awesome! only you know what is going to be BEST for little preston! my kids aren't so close together but my advice... don't do it all at once. make the changes gradual. if it were me. i'd keep him in the crib so he can't just come out because when your new one is napping and you're napping, you don't want preston to come out and wake you up!!!! i like having "control" over that.. especially where he's only 18 months. AND, he may stop napping cuz he can come out easilier (is that a word) :) i've been trying to find something for cooper to do each time i nurse gray so that he isn't wandering around the house causing trouble. easier, cuz he's quite a bit older, but 18 months... a book, a snack (in his high chair)... etc. i've also heard of a "nursing bag" with different things (things they LOVE) and they can only play with them while you're nursing. you'll get the hang of it! it's always roughest at first and then once you get in the groove, you'll be just fine! your baby will be easier too, cuz you know what you're doing (that's how i felt). i kinda knew what to expect so i was able to still focus on the older one. so fun! can't wait to see pics!! and you look GREAT!!!!
OH my word...i'm so far behind on everything! I had no idea you were pregnant with another baby! congrats. As for your questions: what has worked for me with my girls in transitioning is have them involved as much as you can. Have him help you get diapers for the baby, and help put in pacifiers, also during the time you are feeding the baby have that also be a special time with him where you do something with him that he loves to do. For example: if he loves having books read to him, ONLY read him a story during the time you are feeding the baby so that instead of him getting mad that you are with the baby and can't play with him, he looks forward to feeding time cause that means reading time with momma. And as for the bed, I put them in big beds before the next baby was born. It will make for an easier transition for you if you already have him used to sleeping in a big bed.
I'm so excited for you, and btw you don't look AT ALL like you are 28 weeks along. You barely look pregnant at all.
pretty sure I look more preganant than you! no fair. You look great! and that is so awesome that you feel good. I'm telling you....you need to have 12 babies! :)
good luck with the transition to two. I wish I had some advice to offer but I'm afraid I'll have to learn from you when the time comes.
So I think involving them with the new baby is a good idea but I don't think it needs to be overload. Maybe that's just me. Wyatt would help me do some things with chamberlain, but I didn't have him help me EVERY time I changed him or bathed him or whatever, because really, it just takes so much more time and gets frustrating. But they definitely should be involved. That way they don't feel ignored. As for changing to a toddler bed. I would say wait till you know Preston would understand the idea. We talked about a big boy bed with Wyatt for a little while before we actually made the switch. I would say buy a cheap crib on craigslist or ksl and use that for either one till got ready to make the transition. I think you'll know when Preston is ready though. BUT I will say this....I don't know if Preston still uses a binky or not, but DEFINITELY take the binky away before you move him to a toddler bed. We did that with Wyatt and it was so much easier for him to fall asleep in it when he didn't have the binky. I have talked to so many people who take the binky away after changing beds and they said it was so much harder. He can get out of bed and come out of the room and cry and throw the fits they do when you take the binky away when they are in a toddler bed. Just a word of advice....not asked about in the post, but thought I'd give it anyway cuz I just love ya and want it to be easy for you. :) anyway, good luck!!!! Love you!
so obviously i have no advice for you, but just wanted to tell you that you look fabulous! hope to see you again soon! love ya!
I would definitely go with the big boy bed asap, Autumn & Starr were a year apart and I would snuggle Autumn right in with us for daytime feedings so she felt a part of it all. I made sure that Autumn didn't "give up" anything for baby, and soon baby was such a natural part of everything. And Starr was such a peaceful baby that it was easier than I thought.
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